The guys continue around the Golden Circle of Marriage by discussing what it means to Express and Convey in a marriage. They go over how each person expresses themselves differently depending on their personality. Each person needs to be aware of that and how their partner will receive what they are saying. That person then needs to take the time to convey what they are saying is understood.
Tune in to see Expressing and Conveying in the Golden Circle of Marriage Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Listen for the following takeaways from the Show:
- Majority of our expressions are non-verbal.
- Abandonment vs Engulfment: They express themselves differently. One too much, the other not enough.
- You need to be able to say what you are thinking to your spouse.
- Courage is needed in tandem with vulnerability.
- “I don’t know what to say” … rephrase to “I don’t want to say what I am thinking” or “I am not safe to say what I am thinking.”
- Convey – Make something known or understandable to someone.
- More than just expressing but taking the time to make sure your spouse understands what you are trying to say.
- You must develop emotional safety with your spouse (the person your most close to)
- Four Horseman from Gottman: Defensiveness, critical, contempt, and stonewalling.
Part 1: The Golden Circle of Marriage: Acceptance
Part 3: The Golden Circle of Marriage: Receive
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