Learn to Love Self
In this episode Chris talks Self-Acceptance with new co-host, his editor, Cortney Donelson. He then talks about the opposite of that, self-critique. This is the demon that can lead you down a path of insecurities and self-destruction. He then talks about how you can learn to go from acceptance to loving yourself and how that then spills out to other people and how we treat them.
Tune in to see Self-Acceptance Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Listen for the following takeaways from the Show:
- Chris welcomes our next monthly co-host, Cortney Donelson. You should recognize here from episode 87 and episode 95 talking about marriage.
- What is Self-acceptance?
- If you cannot accept that you will fail, you will fail with self-acceptance. ~Chris
- The song All of Me by John Legend is really hard to do when it comes to having full self-acceptance.
- If you realize that you are not the only one going through the same struggles, it helps to get through it.
- It is easier to focus on our flaws, then to embrace our strengths.
- Build-up Activity – Start with focusing on 1 thing you like about yourself and 1 thing you don’t like. Move on to increasing the things you like, but only allow 1 thing you don’t like.
- You need to celebrate the good things and when you successfully change something you don’t like.
- Self-critique destroys self-acceptance and can be tormenting.
- You have to confront the lie you are telling yourself and get honest with what really is going on.
- A critique is a lot different then an assessment. The difference is a critique is a negative way to handle change.
- Sharon Martin has a post about ways you can love yourself.
- Critiques can lead to insecurities that can make us delusional.
- You have to accept what you did and move forward. No shoulda, woulda, coulda’s.
- If you don’t accept or love yourself, you cannot love others.
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For God, All. John Legend’s romantic interpretation is unrealistic. New lovers cannot be all. It is just not going to happen in reality. It takes time, trust, unselfishness, growing love through tough times and good times to allow All, but never fully All. Even for yourself, All is not a concrete possibility. Only by years of living, do you even come near to understanding yourself fully. As you age, you discover new things about yourself on a consistent basis but All is really nothing achievable, only God will recognize All in each of us.
I love the exercise. People shoukd know how worthwhile and marvelous they are. Then consider their faults or areas that they need to improve. One a day, like a vitamin or supplement!
Cortney is the Everyman, a good representative of humankind. Delightful person.
Chris, you shined in this positive reinforcement!