In this episode Chris talks about chapter 11 in his book, Accepting Things is Part of your Emotional Growth. One of the first thing that a person will do is Deny, Deny, Deny when something is hard for them to address about themselves. This means that when someone is looking to grow, they must first look at the parts that need to change that they are denying. While it is a struggle, the growth you will go through is worth it.
Tune in to see Accepting Things is Part of Your Emotional Growth Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Previous Episodes:
Are you Stuck…How to get out of Avoidance – Ep145
Why is Change so Hard – Ep140
Purchase Chris’s Book:
Through a Therapist’s Eyes: Reunderstanding Emotions and Becoming Your Best Self
Listen for the following takeaways from the Show:
- Current Event: Talking about Simon Biles and the mental health aspect of athletes competing & disruption of their muscle memory
- Pressure has ways to really affect our mental health and how we perform.
- Chris does a quick review of Abandonment and Engulfment personalities because of a YouTube comment on Episode 11
- Main part of what what Chris talks about in chapter 11 are the three A’s: Awareness, Action, and Acceptance.
- Awareness – You have to address and acknowledge that the situation is happening or happened.
- Action – If you can discuss and plan with someone else, it gives you an outside perspective to help progress past it.
- Acceptance – Let’s get to it and move on.
- Human’s natural tendency is DENY, DENY, DENY.
- We do not want to accept what we did or accept the consequences.
- It is very hard for people to address their negative attributes or characteristics.
- Sharing a list of those negative characteristics with someone gives them a starting point to address and change.
- Accepting what happened allow you to avoid the guilt that comes with it.
- Emotional freedom comes when we finally accept what is.
- Emotional Growth is getting better at life with management of emotions.
- Positive Social and Emotional development is important.
- Get out of your head and ask for feedback from your trusted peers.
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This was an especially heart and mind gripping show. It almost hurt me to the core with its honesty. Many of us need to come to terms with their true selves, to reveal our true selves courageously and proudly to others. It is necessary to know your true self to move forward, unencumbered and fortified with innate warnings that signal to you that something you are doing or thinking is not right for you, and to do your best to be a better you. To thine own self be true–the good, the bad, the truth about yourself.
Couldn’t agree more Cass! This on the surface seems to be rather simple but extremely hard to do. I appreciate your sentiment… Let’s all Figure this out together… it is hard to do alone.